It appears that by controlling Britney’s contact with her children, her father behaved like every other coercive controller out there who has access to children. Victims in family court know only too well this pattern, where an abuser will utilize any leverage they can, even if that happens to be their own children. “Anything that happened to me had to be approved by my dad”, Britney said. For mums in family court, they know that anything that happens to them has to be approved by their children’s father. They also know that the children are used as leverage to further the abuse.